tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121173822049238761.post6099877487882663384..comments2023-10-28T15:34:56.717+08:00Comments on Chronicles of a Nursing Mom: Sparing the rod doesn't mean spoiling your childJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18428005226096449722noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121173822049238761.post-29432451556390973502010-04-22T14:15:38.327+08:002010-04-22T14:15:38.327+08:00how to disciplined the kids is very subjective top...how to disciplined the kids is very subjective topic. some prefer to be stern and hit the kids, some just followed whatever the kids do. <br /><br />Like us, we do not spank our kid, its more like your ways of " distract her with a toy" and if he still misbehave we will give him a small pitch on his tight and he automatically understand that he is doing wrong things.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09250278502349414100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121173822049238761.post-67354089801024371722010-04-16T16:38:58.980+08:002010-04-16T16:38:58.980+08:00My grandfather (Papa's dad) was a soldier duri...My grandfather (Papa's dad) was a soldier during the World War II and fought along side with the American soldiers the Japanese imperial militia. For most of the years during the war, he was away from his young wife and their eldest son. When he got back to his family at the end of the war, he was aghast at how his son is so "mahinhin at ma-lamya", so timid, soft-spoken, so unmanly. Lolo used to hit my 5-year-old uncle with the belt because of trivial things and my Lola could just cry in powerlessness. When the rest of their children arrived, Lolo still didnt spare the belt either. <br /><br />My dad---the 3rd child of my Lolo---however, has never spanked his five children with sticks, slippers and especially not belts. Never in our lives have my brothers and sisters and I felt the lash of a belt on our tushies. No matter how naughty or nasty we are... there was just no belt that came flying towards us. <br /><br />When we were kids, Lolo comes to visit us in Davao. At times we get too cumberson for his sensibilities and he would look for his belt, hold it but never hit us. Ang laking pagpipigil nya siguro sa aming lima. Galit lang ng Papa ko sa kanya pag pinalo nya kami ng sinturon. <br /><br />When I asked my father why he did not use the belt as a disciplining tool, he just said "violence begets violence and violence does not belong in our family." Among the sons and daughters of my Lolo, only Papa and my Switzerland-based Uncle William did not resort to belt-spanking as a means to teach their children proper behavior. <br /><br />And as a daughter of a father who broke that chain of violence, I am forever grateful to have been reared by parents like him.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00020183879001044800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121173822049238761.post-23643805377599159072010-04-16T07:12:15.512+08:002010-04-16T07:12:15.512+08:00thanks joanne! i don't have that book by dr. s...thanks joanne! i don't have that book by dr. sears and given that he is one of the forerunners of attachment parenting, i would be surprised if he thought otherwise. anyway, i'm fairly certain that for our generation, most if not all of us were spanked as children. i've known some who say that even if they were spanked at kids, they turned out to be good adults so why would their kids turn out otherwise?Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18428005226096449722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121173822049238761.post-62499326902940066832010-04-16T01:48:58.775+08:002010-04-16T01:48:58.775+08:00Jen, I was just reading through Dr. Sears' Dis...Jen, I was just reading through Dr. Sears' Discipline Book last night after tucking (nursing, actually) my month-old baby Diwa to sleep. <br /><br />Check out their take on spanking.<br /><br />10 REASONS NOT TO HIT YOUR CHILD<br /><br />1. HITTING MODELS HITTING<br />2. HITTING DEVALUES THE CHILD<br />3. HITTING DEVALUES THE PARENT<br />4. HITTING MAY LEAD TO ABUSE<br />5. HITTING DOES NOT IMPROVE BEHAVIOR<br />6. HITTING IS ACTUALLY NOT BIBLICAL<br />7. HITTING PROMOTES ANGER - IN CHILDREN AND IN PARENTS<br />8. HITTING BRINGS BACK BAD MEMORIES <br />9... (there wasn’t any #9, Dr. Sears)<br />10. SPANKING DOESN'T WORKUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00020183879001044800noreply@blogger.com