Remember my post entitled "Concerns of a Milk Donor Mom" where I shared the hierarchy of babies that I donate to:
I do have a hierarchy of babies I give milk to - first would be the sick or premature babies then multiples and milk banks, then for emergencies, e.g. mom got sick, etc. If your baby is healthy and you just cannot pump enough milk, ASKING FOR MILK is not sustainable - you need to bring up your own supply
I replied that I honestly did not think about situations like theirs. I told him that I had written that post because I had been receiving milk requests from moms who had older babies but were still asking for breastmilk. I wanted them to build their supply and produce their own milk rather than relying on others for help. Considering the fact that it is biologically impossible for a child of a gay couple to get breastmilk directly within the family, I shared that I would probably donate to them (if they were in Manila) but still give priority to sick babies and our local milk banks.
Victor shared how he and his partner had been fortunate enough to find women willing to donate breastmilk to their baby girl, N. I asked Victor about the birth mom - who turns out to be his sister. Unfortunately, the birth mom lives in Wisconsin while they live in Washington DC. The birth mom also had 2 boys of her own, whom she breastfed for sometime and was ready to hang up the horns.
The family made one milk request at the Human Milk for Human Babies DC-Maryland Metro area and received numerous milk donations. When we we started emailing each other, N was about 5 months and had been exclusively on breastmilk - a great feat considering none of her parents were lactating! Victor shares that they were recipients of 3 regular mom-donors and also received a few one-time gifts of milk. Victor feels that they were lucky enough to have enough milk gifts because moms were moved by their story and appreciated the fact that 2 dads read up, understood the value of breastmilk, and drove 40 - 60+ miles all over the DC Metro each weekend just to source milk for their daughter.
The main challenge that the family had to face was logistical - when they first returned from Wisconsin with N as a newborn, Victor had to spend a lot of time driving to various locations to pick up milk. Some of their friends have questioned their decision to provide donated breastmilk instead of formula milk but Victor and his partner was firm in their decision to provide breastmilk to N. Victor was also excited to see how the breastmilk from different donors would affect N's sense of taste, diet - considering that the milk she drinks come from different women with varying diet, tastes, etc.
Amazing story! This certainly opened my eyes to another point of view on milk sharing.