When we became parents, Stan and I naturally gravitated towards the attachment parenting model. I realize now that it was also because of how I was parented as a child. During our recent family trip to Tokyo, my dad shared about how an uncle told him how to parent his family - that he as a parent must be feared by his children - rule by the rod, not by hugs and kisses. But my dad disagreed. He believed that we should learn to obey him because we love and respect him and not because we feared him. So my siblings and I were never lacking for warmth and affection from our parents and for this I am truly grateful.